Sex At Dragon*Con


Sex at Dragon Con

In the brief, alcohol and caffeine fueled weekend that is Dragon Con, it shouldn't be a surprise that many attendees will find other attendees attractive. Attempts at mating will inevitably follow. This can be a wonderful thing, but those participating in such acts should be careful with themselves and their special buddy, as well as considerate to other attendees. The following is a series of best practices and suggestions to help ensure any such experiences you may be lucky to find yourself in are pleasurable, memorable, and safe.

 


 

Meeting that Special Someone

You never know when Cupid's Arrow will strike: perhaps in the gaming hall, perhaps in a panel, or perhaps just passing in the crowded hallways. While some folks may be comfortable in a social setting, we know that many simply are not. As such, here are a few nuggets of advice regarding approaching your target:

 

 

Tips for approaching a male, from a guy's perspective. 

 

 

Tips for approaching a female, from a girl's perspective. 

 

Sweet Lovings

Many people may be alarmed at the idea of intimate physical contact with another human being. Don't panic: your prospective partner is likely as afraid of you as you are of him/her. At any rate, hopefully you'll get at least to second base. If you don't score that home run, with luck you'll be doing this on a Friday and will have a few more nights to make the connection.

 

While we could offer some advice here, we will instead leave you to the horrifying combination of what your parents told you of where babies come from, plus what you've learned by cruising through /b/ on 4Chan.

 

Afterward

The follow up to your evening of carnal pleasures (or awkward fumbling) can vary dramatically. You may be accosted by a jealous wannabe-lover who never had the huevos to act upon his/her daydreamings. You may awaken to the drunken braying of your/your partner's roommates. You may find that you blacked out, have sobered up next to someone other than what you remember (or someone you swore you'd never associate that way). Or, you may realize this is the person you've been looking for your whole life (up to this point).

 

 

The Naked Safety Dance

Sex is a wonderful thing, and who knows! You might be lucky enough to score someday too. Unfortunately the act of bumping uglies can carry with it several horrible dangers. Here's how to navigate the pink seas of sweet, sweet loving without a storm sinking your submarine, or your poor little man in the boat.

 

Types of Risks

There are five primary classes of risk you're dealing with when you choose to drown the slippery otter. These are: Preggers, Crotch Rot, Dramabomb, Criminal Shenanigans, and the Fetish Surprise. All of these have been known to happen sooner or later to all of those lucky folks with the opportunity to screw on a regular basis, so it's worth keeping in mind that if you're gonna stick it in the pink or have your pink stuck into, you'll never be completely free of danger. The fact is, however, that the danger only makes it more fun.

 

 

 

 

 

 

The Important Difference Between Consensual Fooling Around and Sexual Assault

 

 

NO MEANS NO! Not "try again". Not "buy me another drink". Not resort to drastic measures. Acts of deception, especially the adding to or supplying of intoxicating substances, used to obtain sex can be charged in some jurisdictions, and with a good lawyer in the others, as sexual assault or rape, depending on the severity of the acts (Some jurisdictions differentiate between Sexual Assault and Rape). Play it cool, play it clean, and realize that they may not be into you and you'll have to move on. There are plenty of other people here looking for an adventure consensually. Don't spoil someone else's experience, and/or life, with your dirty and potentially illegal shenanigans.

 

In 2010, the social media were all abuzz with a distressingly high number of sexual assault stories resulting from the fact that Dragon Con hotels were not all-congoers. The hotels were also hosting college football fans for the Chik Fil-A bowl.  As such, there were a lot of drunken jocks whose idea of a good time was pretty much "get drunk, enjoy football, mock the geeks, and don't think about girls in costume as actual people."

 

While the hotels have all been notified, as has Dragon Con staff for 2011, the best way to make sure everybody is safe and has the experience they want is to be part of the solution to the problem in advance.  It cannot be said enough.  Don't touch -- or anything else -- without permission.

 

Everybody wants to have a good time.

 

People get drunk and inhibitions are lowered.  But keeping your eyes open for yourself and your friends can make the experience enjoyable for everybody...and most importantly SAFE.

 

The Women Backing Each Other Up Project has volunteered ribbons to identify people who will help back you up if someone is getting closer than you'd prefer and not taking polite disinterest or "no" for an answer. http://backupproject.org/faq.html. However, starting in 2012, Dragon*Con requested that the backup project not hand out ribbons out of concern that they could be misused leading to more dangerous situations. The backup project also provided an official response.

 


*Disclaimer: Despite the attempts at humor, often of the cynical nature of previous contributors, The Unofficial Dragon Con Wiki, and the editorial and administrative staff, do not condone underage sex, sexual violence, rape, and the targeting of individuals for said acts. Check and obey local laws regarding sexual activity. Also, don't be a dick.